Depending on which day of the week it is and what I have going on, you can guarantee that those details will influence my confidence levels. The crazy part to me is that my younger self had so much more confidence than I do now as a thirty-something year old woman. I thought the opposite would be the case.
Some days I am thebomb.com and other days I feel like a complete disaster. It seems like I am in the latter state more often than not and as a result I am forced to do some work to get back to my highest moments. To do so, I have to minster to myself consistently. Today, I share with you the three short things I try to sit with in order to renew my confidence and ensure it withstands.
- Trust the power of affirmations: This one is not new and my followers have probably heard me say this before. It’s funny how if you repeat something to yourself enough times, you become crazy enough to believe it. Maybe it’s not that funny though because my bible tells me, “faith comes by hearing…”
- Mind yo business: I suffer from imposter syndrome and I know I am not alone in this. In fact, it has often been the topic of conversation in my various cycles. As a scholar, I feel surrounded by people who are, as Pastor Stephen Furtick said, live in the land of “Er.” They are smarter than me, higher producers than I am, etc. Even as a new blogger, I constantly see those with larger platforms, paid deals, and speaking engagements and begin to question my “inadequacies.” All of this is only an issue because in these moments I am too focused on others instead of worrying about myself and minding mine.
- Work on your faith: In the areas were my confidence is weakest happens to be the same areas that I need to trust God more. When I know who I am and whose I am, my confidence will automatically soar. Not only in myself, but also in Him. I have been listening to Pastor Mike Todd’s “Crazy Faith” sermon series so I am linking part 1 here. I pray it blesses your life the same way it has been blessing me.
Do these things now. I have been guilty of placing conditions or qualifiers on my confidence. I’ll be more confident when I lose a few pounds. I’ll be more confident when I finish writing the book. I’ll be more confident when…
Because we are inextricably linked to others and our purpose awaits, remove these unnecessary conditions. #aintnobodygottimeforthat
Be confident now.
It is my hope that as I share this message with you, that not only will your confidence soar but so will your faith. A lot of what I have been dealing with these days could be circumvented if I level up in my faith. I believe confidence is the byproduct.
1 John 5:13-15 The Message (MSG)
The Reality, Not the Illusion
My purpose in writing is simply this: that you who believe in God’s Son will know beyond the shadow of a doubt that you have eternal life, the reality and not the illusion. And how bold and free we then become in his presence, freely asking according to his will, sure that he’s listening. And if we’re confident that he’s listening, we know that what we’ve asked for is as good as ours.