Hi lovely people!
Most of you who follow me can recall my devastation when I realized my previous blog Locks & Lovely Things, “died.” I did not realize that was possible, but you live and you learn, right?
This post was originally written on L< in May 2018. I just crossed my 3rd lockaversary and found this piece saved on my laptop. Because it is still very fitting, I share it with you today!
If we open our eyes, there are life lessons and reminders all around. These three came from this hair journey.
- Take chances.
I was scared to start my locs. I was used to my hair in its relaxed state and it was growing. I loved my hair and so did my husband! I enjoyed the flexibility to be able to change my styles up at the drop of a hat and the thought of something “permanent” gave me great hesitation. I was concerned I wouldn’t love my hair but I took the chance anyway. No risk, no reward, right?
In my case, I am glad I took this chance. I love my hair and I can’t wait to see what it does over the days, months, and years to come. This loc lesson is applicable to everyday life and has encouraged me to feel free to take more risks. So should you! Train for a race, research your next business venture, or sign up for some classes. They’ll ask what if it doesn’t pay off. You’ll respond: but what if it does?
- “Patience young grasshopper.”
I’ve heard this phrase over and over again but didn’t know its origination. Sir Google tells us it comes from a TV show “Kung Fu.” The show is older than me but I understand the power of this phrase. Patience is certainly a virtue (that I do not completely possess). My lack of patience rears its ugly head when I get stuck wishing my was hair longer (like yesterday) ultimately wanting to rush this growth and development process.
This loc lesson reminds me that we tend to have patience in some areas of our lives but not others. Delayed gratification can be challenging but we do not rush a baby out of the womb prematurely! Slow down, work toward your goals, and do not wish for immediate returns on those investments. All in due time grasshopper!
- Affirm yourself.
Don’t get me wrong, I love when my husband gives me hair specific compliments or my girl tribe gives me a heartfelt “yaaaassssss honey” but these are not happening daily nor do they have to. It is my daily duty to affirm myself. This loc lesson is applicable to everyday life and has reminded of that.
The psychology on self-affirmation tells us that we have the power to combat negative perceptions we have of ourselves. In those areas where we have lower self-esteem/self-concept, through various strategies including positive self-talk, we can minimize the distress we experience in those areas. Speak life in and over all areas of your life. “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit- you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 MSG
Today I challenge you to ensure these life lessons are present for you.